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My name is Sarah. In July of 2006 my
aunt was diagnosed with stage 3C Ovarian
cancer. Less than a year later to
recovered from her complete hysterectomy
and was deemed cancer free after only 6
rounds of chemo. In August of 2007, I
optimistically started my college career
at Bridgewater College. In late
September of 2007 I received the call
that her cancer had come back, this time
in her hip bone and socket. She
immediately began chemo two days later
and radiation. Weeks turned into months
and by the time that June 2008 had
rolled around we had been through a
total of 8 different types of chemos.
None had worked. After being in and out
of the hospital several times, receiving
one blood transfusion after another it
came time for the CAT scan. August 2,
2008 has been the worst day of my life
so far. While at work, I received the
call from my aunt that the results for
the test were not good. The cancer had
spread from her hip, to her bones, to
her abdomen, to her liver. Within the
following weeks Hospice began coming to
our house, she went from using a walker
and wheelchair to a hospital bed in our
living room. She could no longer shower
herself or eat. I returned home to the
college in my hometown to be here with her.
My aunt is more than someone you see
every holiday or talk to once a month.
I have lived with her for my entire
life, along with my mother and sister.
She has no children other than myself
and my sister and has never been
married. She is like my mom, only with
all the benifits of being spoiled
constantly by her. I love her more than
anything in the world, and there are so
many people around her that do too. Her
laugh can fill up a room and her smile
never faded. I act exactly like her and
she is the only family I have since I
have no father or grandparents.
She is still hanging on but in pain.
I need to know if I am being selfish for
not wanting her to go yet. I'll be 20
years old in December and I wanted her
to be there for that. I wanted her to
see me get married and have children of
my own for her to spoil. It seems like
everyday it's getting harder for me to
think of how it is going to be without
her and everything that I am missing out
on when she goes. How do I deal with
knowing I've only got a limited number
of days? What am I supposed to do?
It's hard to go a day without crying
hysterically when I think about her not
being around. I watch the Price is
Right with her every single afternoon in
between my college classes, I'm lost and
don't know where to turn.
Can anyone help me? |
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Reply By: Becky |
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Sara,
I am truly sorry to hear about your
Aunt. It's hard to find the "right"
things to say, because I'm sure you've
probably heard them over and over
already. I don't believe that you are
being selfish, I would be the same way
if it was my Aunt...especially if she
was like a mom to me. Just cherish the
moments that you have with her. She
knows how you feel and I'm sure she
would LOVE to be around for your 20th
birthday, when you get married, and have
kids. I don't know her but I'm sure she
would love to do all the things with
you, but just know that she is always
going to be there.
Please know that you and your family are
in my thoughts and prayers. If you ever
want to just write someone, and talk,
please e-mail me. I'll definitely do
what I can for you.
God Bless,
Becky
photosbybecky313@yahoo.com |
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Reply By: lyn |
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Sarah, how are things with your aunt? |
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Reply By: Kaitlyn |
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Becky I am so sorry to here about ur
aunt. I have lost quite a few family
members but i cant imagine what u r
going through. I think the thing is is to
not think about the future. I know its
hard, but why dont you just think about
the present and the moments you
currently have with her. Also, think
about the good times you did have with
her before the cancer too. If you wanna
talk reply to your message and I will be
sure to write back. |
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Reply By: sarah |
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Message: |
My best friend has had cancer for 2
years now. I have lost 2 friends to
cancer, and have seen 3 recover.
There is a reason this website is called
CANCER sucks. It's because LIFE does
NOT suck. It's just the cancer that sucks.
It is so important that every single day
you go to bed happy. I can understand
how big a part of your life your aunt is.
The best thing you can do for her and
for yourself is to realize that cancer is
just a pain in the butt problem thrown
into the amazing blessing of life. Make
every day count and go to bed happy
every day.
None of us were guaranteed a life at all.
The life we got is a blessing in and of
itself. Remember to take full advantage
of that blessing and always keep in mind
that cancer sucks; life is incredible. |
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Reply By: sammi |
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my grandpa has cancer it is really heard
to deal with the cancer is in his liver i
can't stand it i want to cry help |
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Reply By: SAMMI |
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Message: |
NOW HOSPICE IS COMING WITVH
MEANS MY GRANDPA WILL DIE SOON |
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Reply By: Live Longer |
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Cancer does suck but I have a friend
who had cancer but through this
program stopped it and removed it from
his body.
Go here to learn more:
www.ravediet.com/caResources.htm |
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Sydney, 19
Though cancer has its negative effects, in the long run it has been a blessing in regards to the way I live my daily life. I know that each day is a gift to be celebrated and I thank God for opening my eyes to all that is beautiful and good in this world.
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